Midlife Crisis - Men

In the run up to the age of 40, what we commonly refer to as a midlife crisis can mean that things started to change for some men.

Many will also have noticed a surge of testosterone in their wives and girlfriends prior to the dreaded Menopause which can leave them temperamental and sexually insatiable and this is particularly noticeable (and often rather annoying) when you begin to become aware of a gradual lessening of your own libido.

When things start to settle down and you wish to indulge your own appetites, she then starts to complain about not wanting sex or finding it uncomfortable due to vaginal thinning – all symptoms of her declining oestrogen levels.

However, one of the best things for dealing with such thinning is regular vaginal activity. I have been through this problem myself. If you use plenty of lube or even wear one of the new skin-like latex-free condoms – either the RealFeel or Avanti Ultima – this can make the whole event far less painful and, therefore, far more likely to be successful. Fear of what may happen can be a huge turn off. If she has confidence that it’s not going to hurt, she is bound to be more receptive to your desires.

And if you encourage her to use vibrators or pelvic floor exercisers to stimulate the area, this will also help to boost circulation to the area and prevent further thinning – as well as ensuring that her cunt retains its elasticity and muscle control, adding to your own pleasure.

The consequences of not dealing with Menopause together can exacerbate a man’s midlife crisis. Whereas before they could eat whatever they like and not put on weight because they played football every week or visited the gym regularly, suddenly the beginnings of a spare tyre start to accumulate around their middle. He’s starting to notice thinning on top and and he’s not getting sex. She doesn’t feel desirable and, ipso facto, does not desire him. He feels unwanted and starts to search for a trophy girlfriend to emphasise his battered masculinity.

But, even if he succeeds in his new goal of getting a divorce and living happily ever after with a girl half his age, his own body will then start to betray him as it enters middle age.

For some it can be Peyronie’s disease, where a trauma to the penis in his youth can cause scarring which leads to erection problems through curvature of the penis but, for most, it is problems with prostate inflammation that start to become evident.  The gland can become enlarged through infection (prostatitis) or cell overgrowth (benign prostatic hyperplasia) and this swelling causes pressure on the urethra which is the tube that takes urine from the bladder and semen from the testes to the penis causing both functions to become constricted.

Varying degrees of incontinence and penile dysfunction can become evident – sometimes even impotence – so it is vital to ensure that your prostate remains healthy through regular stimulation with kegel and pelvic floor exercises or one of the many prostate massagers on the market.

One of the best exercises is to ensure that, once you have finished urination, you squeeze your pelvic floor muscles to ensure that all the urine has been expelled from the urethra.  This will prevent post-micturition drip which is that annoying dribble of urine that exits the urethra just after you’ve readjusted your clothing.  It will also help to strengthen the bulbocavernosus muscle which is responsible for ejaculation and assist you in controlling that facet of your sexual performance.

For some men achieving erection can also be a major problem and here, too, regular kegel and pelvic floor exercises can be helpful.  Although, if you experience any problems with incontinence or erectile dysfunction, it is wise to visit your healthcare professional to that he can rule out anything more sinister.

Regular exercise is also vital to the general sexual health of both sexes as obesity can put great pressure on the sling of muscles that form the pelvic floor and hold all the organs in place.  If the tension is allowed to slacken off, organs can push through and prolapse into the cavities below them.

Walking or yoga are relaxing but energetic enough to help burn off those calories and help to keep your body in good shape through into old age – and they’re also things that you can do with your partner to promote togetherness as you face the future.

Originally posted 2011-04-29 11:37:34. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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